I have a scheduling conflict. Because here in my house we have a calendar. Everybody puts up items. In the current case about 3 weeks ago there was a calendar item indicating 'some conference' with no location. But I have a family event in the midwest I needed to go to on the same day (or days as I have to fly there). So I scheduled my trip and added it to the calendar.
Of course a day or two after that I am on my way out the door when little miss dictator opens the door and says "you didn't book your tickets yet did you?" Of course I had otherwise it wouldn't be on the calendar. "Well I was planning on being out of town that weekend as well, so what are you going to do?" I said I would gladly take our son with me, she said "no way". At which point I got into the car and went to work.
Skip forward 3 weeks. No speaking during this time, finally one night she says, you've canceled your plans right? Uh, no. She goes off on a rant about her being able to take a vacation any time she wants, I say go ahead. She comes back and asks if I am changing my plans again and I repeat that I would gladly take my son with me, to which I again get a 'no way'. Nothing more than that.
Skip forward about 4 days. Tonight I get "what time are you going to be back that monday?" I say about 10pm. She then says that months ago (now, we haven't really spoken since dec, so give this 4 months ago" I said I would go to my son's dr appt. And again says I need to change plans. This is for a trip that is happening this thur. Again I say no, and she goes off about how she has to go to the dr and talk about this life threatening issue (never mind whether or not I think it is life threatening) and the dr is going to ask where I am and I choose not to be involved. Just ranting and spewing and belittling. So while she is off in her turets I simply say I am going to walk away and go upstairs.
So now she's off laughing on the phone with someone (laughing!). I mean, how serious is this that she didn't bring it up immediately when the plans were made, didn't bring it up again a week ago when she started again, then only brings it up now when she realizes I am definitely going. And now she's off laughing on the phone about this life threatening issue? I don't think so. In my experience she just throws different things at me to get me to get angry or get me to not do what I plan on doing. It's all about control and power.
When I get back from my trip I am scheduling a private appt with the dr, get them to describe their concerns, talk about my experiences, and go from there. And I am getting a car so my son and I can leave the house on the weekends. Did I mention I'm not allowed to take the car with my son unless I tell her where we are going and how long we'll be? Because she might need to go out. So here she's placing herself above all others in the house, but I am the one being selfish. Luckily I'm not buying it any more.
05-25-2008 09:04 PM